Going For The First Kiss

Dear Speed Seduction® Student,

Here is an important question I got the other day via email. (By the way, feel free to write me with your questions and testimonials!)

"Hi Guys

It's midnight on a rainy Monday in old London Town. I've just got back in from an evening out with a very attractive young lady and I'm a bit frustrated.

I met Cath last year on holiday. When we first met we quite fancied each other, but by the end of the holiday, for various reasons, we weren't seeing eye to eye. Relationship at this point was purely platonic.

We met up again and I ran several patterns from the Home Study Course(http://www.speedseduction.net/products/rj87.asp

At several points when she was in trance I leaned in and she responded very favorably by smiling and leaning in to me.

At the end of the evening I walked her back to her car, gave her a hug and a kiss on the cheek and we agreed to meet again.

All well and good? If that's the case why do I feel like I managed to capture her imagination but didn't lead it very well?

It seems to be a bit of a theme with me at the moment. I go out, meet quite a few women, get into great conversations with them. Steer these towards SS themes but don't seem to be able lead them to places which let them feel interested or comfortable enough to want to go any further.

I sort of feel like I'm sooooo close. But not quite there? I'm managing to put myself in a scoring position, but can't quite create the opportunity to put the ball in the back of the net.

Suggestions, support and encouragement most welcome.

TR London, England"


Ok, TR. Good going, so far. You are using patterns and getting some strong, favorable responses.

Here is where you screwed it up:

YOU WAITED UNTIL THE END OF THE EVENING TO GO FOR THE KISS!

What is this stuff about waiting to walk her back to her car?

You have to learn to strike while the iron is hot.

If you see her leaning into you, that's a huge NON-VERBAL SIGNAL that is screaming out: KISS ME, STUPID!

The more important issue is, you seem to be putting Speed Seduction® through a dating framework.

What I mean by that is, even though you are using the patterns and getting great responses, you are still thinking in terms of traditional dating when it comes to making your move.

You are still thinking you have to wait til the end of the evening, etc etc.

Get that traditional "dating" programming out of your head.

When you capture and lead a woman's imagination and emotions, they will be ready for action, far more quickly than you would ever get through traditional dating.

Peace and piece,

RJ

P.S. Want to enjoy fantastic success with amazing women, without resorting to traditional dating, stupid "dating tips", trite "dating advice", canned "pick up lines" and the rest of that nonsense?

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Meet women, anytime, anywhere and never worry about what to say. Check out the amazing Gold Walk Up DVD and learn the 4 approach positions that will have you easily approaching women any time and never have to think about what comes out of your mouth:

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Ouch, That Hurt

Dear Speed Seduction® Student,

The other day, I was doing some fabulous Combat Conditioning exercises, as taught by the incredible Matt Furey.

Being a fairly sedentary (a big word that means lazy ass) person, having a quick, fun work-out that I can do that actually makes me functionally fit, really feels good.

But today, contrary to Matt's advice, I over did it a bit, and as a result, I'm pretty sore.

Now, what in the world does this have to do with pulling hot women?

Simply this; in the beginning, when starting something new, pace yourself.

Look, as a human, you can learn to do pretty much anything, IF you do things gradually.

Too many guys, when they order their Speed Seduction Home Study Course(http://www.speedseduction.net/products/rj87.asp) TRY to jump in and do the hardest stuff first.

For example, even if they haven't had a woman in a decade or even talked to one in the same length of time, they want to go right out, approach the hottest woman in town, and try to get her in the sack in a matter of minutes.

Now, far be it from me to discourage ambition, and using Speed Seduction® you can and will get these kind of results.

But my stronger suggestion is: start out slow. Take one or two basic concepts from the course, and apply them every day. Even if you only improve 1 percent a day, by the end of a couple of months, you'll be bouncing from girl to girl like a rabbit on a double frappucinno mocha latte, extra whip!

Anyway, if you want the power, confidence and charm to pick the women you choose, instead of relying on canned pick-up lines, trite dating tips and stupid dating advice, why don't you learn to throw dating away and get the women you want jumping on you before you even go out? Thousands of guys around the world are doing so right now, and the first step is going right here:

http://www.speedseduction.net/products/rj87.asp.

Piece and peace,

RJ


P.S. If you are already smoking the tuna like crazy with your Home Study Course, it's time to step up to the advanced leagues and get my most powerful of all seduction courses.

Just go here:

http://www.speedseduction.net/products/RJ172.asp

and check out my Secrets of Hyper-Response video/DVD series.


P.P.S. I'm not kidding. This one is NOT for beginners and you will not be allowed to order it unless you already own a Home Study Course.

http://www.speedseduction.net/products/RJ172.asp


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200 Women In One Night!

Dear Speed Seduction® Student,

Only one thing pleases me more to hear that a student is kicking ass and taking names.

What could please me more than that, you ask?

No, not the entire UCLA Women's Volleyball team suddenly deciding that hugging me nasty in the dark is an obsession they HAVE to fulfill (Although I do love the UCLA Women's Volleyball team!)

No, what pleases me most is hearing that a student is actually helping out a fellow student to get amazing results.

Look: when I think back to what an incredibly tongue-tied, nerve-wracked, chicken-chokin' loser I used to be with women, it makes me want to cry.

So, when a student gets marvelous results, and then helps another student achieve the same, well, I'm about as proud as a hillbilly daddy in a roomful of virgin 13 year olds!

So, imagine my good feelings when I got the following email:

Hi Ross,

I thought the story of what happened last night might be interesting for Some of you - especially the newer SS students.

After the London seminar the Irish lads decided that we should get together and start to really push these skills forward.

After a number of bars we were all off the mark and had already got some great responses. Things were off to a great start - the guys had gone from not being able to open, to using blurt-outs, intuitive openers, humorous approaches, and some great sincerity, which we learned from the Gold Walk Ups DVD http://www.speedseduction.net/products/rj185.asp

The more women that were opened, the further the old beliefs faded. THE WOMEN LOVED THESE CHARMING GUYS.


I helped one student, Dan, with some of the exercises on your Fear Into Charisma DVD

http://www.speedseduction.net/products/rj180.asp


Here is the REALLY INTERESTING THING - he got some great smiles, some kino from these women, and out of about 50 approached women, only 2 semi negative responses. The energy was grounded before going out, and his state, energy, and awareness were totally controlled and supercharged.

After this, women were approaching him, and there was no more fear of approaches - he hit the100 openers mark by the end of the night.

Then came Selig.

This guy was amazing, he really got into the ritual before hand, and we reversed some of the energy surrounding his former fear of clubs when we arrived at the place.

After a little while Selig had hit 60 approaches. At this stage there was no stopping him.

Selig had moved from being afraid to speak to women, to a guy who was magnetic, charming, intuitive, and dynamic in a little under 5 hours. He broke the 100 approaches mark by the end of the night.

I'm sure the guys will have their own stories to post in more detail, but suffice to say, approaches are no longer a problem.

John Stein - Cork, Ireland

John, what can I say? A huge "right on" for helping out
your fellow Speed Seduction ® students. May you always find women with warm hearts, firm bods, and lots of moist relief!

Peace and piece,

RJ

P.S. Want to overcome YOUR fear of approaching women and know the 4 different ways to meet them anytime, anywhere, and never worry about what to say? Then check out:

http://www.speedseduction.net/products/rj180.asp


and

http://www.speedseduction.net/products/rj185.asp

And let me know when you top meeting 100 women a night!


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Special Super-Success Issue

Dear Speed Seduction® Student,

I am interrupting the normal flow of Speed Seduction(R) newsletters to bring you a very important message that I feel simply CANNOT wait.

You see, from time to time, I get incredible testimonials from students who are using the SS material to truly.....

...Change Their Lives And KICK BUTT WITH WOMEN!

Yesterday, I got the following email from Ryan D, and I feel I had to share it with you because his results are not only dramatic, but more importantly...

.....He Goes Into Which Specific Techniques Got What Specific Results With The Women He Really Wanted!

So, here, unedited, is the testimonial from Ryan. And if YOU want to get the results he is getting, you can always to to:

http://www.speedseduction.net

Here it is:

I have been using Ross's material since 1997, after a woman whom I thought I had loved totally rejected me. I was 20 at the time.

Sitting in a pool of rejection and self-doubt, I did what my parents had taught me to do in any type of failure: learn as much as you can about the subject and re-attack. I started to read anything and everything I could on meeting and dating women. Unfortunately, most of the material out there is written by touchy-feely types (mostly women or emasculated men) and fails to get down to a REAL way to bridge the communication gap between men and women. In one such article, I did read something that one of the authors said that modern men need to learn more about the art of "seduction". That word struck a chord somewhere in one of my subconscious harmonics, and I became very interested in the idea o f seduction. Up until then, everyone had been telling me "just be yourself", "it has to just happen", "it happens when you are not looking", and "just be patient". This idea of "seduction" implied to me that a process and techniques actually existed to get the things I wanted and at the same time give the things women wanted to them. It wasn't long before I simply typed www.seduction.com into my web-browser, and I was opened up to the world of Speed Seduction. When the student is ready, the master appears.

I bought the first book "How to Get the Women You Desire into Bed", and simply using techniques to elicit deeper structures in a person's thought processes during conversation, I met a wonderful young lady on the my flight home for Christmas Break. We lived in totally different parts of the world, but that didn't stop her from
driving four hours from New Jersey to see me when a trip brought me to Washington, D.C., and this is just from a plane conversation, and a few emails. I was hooked. I bought all the products; I listened to the home-study courses again and again. I became known as "the pick-up artist" in my circle of friends.

Which is not to say that learning how to meet and seduce women was not a difficult process, even with Ross's tools, it requires a commitment. You get through one layer of your difficult issues (like approaching women), and you find another challenge behind that one. If you find the persistence to get through them all, there are spectacular rewards waiting for you. In the SS-community, though, there are so many others (Ross included) who have been where you are at, and they have gotten through the labyrinth. The path is thoroughly known, and the maps for navigation do exist.

I eventually went to a seminar, and my success just sky-rocketed. One night during the seminar, just for fun, I decided to try and use the SS-tools to have the singer at a blues club invite me to come up on stage to sing. I started off by getting into a very good rapport with her, and she approached me after the first set was done. I eventually said to her, "if you were to ask me nicely, I might be convinced to come up and sing." She quickly convinced the rest of the band. While on stage, I focused all my energy on connecting with the room. I had folks telling me that it was the best version they had ever heard of the song I did (Mustang Sally), people were buying me beer, women were grabbing me and pulling me out on the dance floor. It was incredible.

I could go and brag about all the successes with women I have had, (which have been amazing), like the 20-year-old Japanese cutie that I met at Thanksgiving Dinner at my new boss's house that ended up blowing me in my boss's kitchen about 2 hours after I met her, or the bi-sexual actress I met on Internet that forced me into the back of my 4X4 in the parking lot at Starbucks after our first coffee date, or the amazing-legged Lithuanian girl who would shower me with both gifts and her affection, but the more important thing has been the cascading effects that this has had on all of my life. These tools of Ross and Yates teach you how to look at the world through eyes of possibility. You see how many people are stuck in life, just drifting, and while you may feel sorry for them, you have confidence that will never be you.

I have used this in so many other areas. I was trying to help a girl run faster so she could pass a fitness test for the Air Force, and I got her to create a state for things she really loves doing and then link that state to running. She took three minutes off her time. At one point I was a suspect in a criminal investigation (I didn't do it), and I used rapport strategies and eye-accessing
techniques to get a good rapport with the agents interviewing me. It was so successful that not only were they thoroughly convinced I didn't commit the crime, but the female agent wanted to set me up on a date with her supervisor.

The biggest mistake people make about judging Ross's students is to say that they are a bunch of sleaze balls that want to learn how to manipulate and psychologically subdue women. Based on the two seminars I have attended, I would say that nothing is farther from the truth. The people that I meet at the seminars are a big factor in why I keep going to them (and will continue to into the future). These people are the type of people seriously invested in becoming the best that they can become. Sex and seduction may bring them to this material, but there is so much more to it than that. Most of these men truly love women, but are baffled on how to communicate with them, so that both the men and women involved get the things they want and need (guess what women like sex too!).

Another thing I want to comment on about Ross is that he does have a great deal of heart, and that is so evident in the way he teaches in person. He doesn't set up a grand stage and liken himself to a god or religious figure (like some other people in this field might do). He sets things up on a very personal level. He holds his seminars in modest meeting halls in hotels. He has stools in front, not a stage. He'll go to lunch one-on-one with students, and is infinitely curious about their lives and who they are. He doesn't do this out of ego. He does it because he has a gift, and he loves to teach and give it to others.

There is so much more I can say about the profound effect Ross and Yates have had on my life (and I know they will continue to up into the future), but you really have to sit down and make the choice for yourself. Are you going to pre-disqualify something that you haven't even tried, or are you going to take a chance and try something different that could just change your life? How many of us do the same thing over and over again, expecting a different result? What if there was another way?

Ryan David,
Albuquerque, NM

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How To *Lock In* Lasting Self-Confidence With Women!

Dear Speed Seduction® Student,

Over the years, I've had a chance to look at what really
makes permanent, large, personal change possible. I've
watched thousands of guys use my methods to go very rapidly
from no confidence with women at all, to ease, power, grace
and fun with all the women they could possibly desire.

And one of the big things they had in common, in addition
to buying and using my products, is…

......Consistency!

They didn't just listen to my products once, or give it a
few tries.

No.

They immersed themselves in the material.

In fact, I've gotten many reports of guys going so far as
to have my, videos, cd's and tapes playing all the time in
every room of their house, apartment or hotel, no matter the
time of day, on multiple tape players, VHS's etc.

Other students (including some of my current top guys)
have said that they took long drives out of town, often
hundreds of miles each way, with the tapes or CD's playing the
entire trip.

Now, personally, I don't think I could stand listening to
my own voice that much!

But immersing yourself in the material, in fact, immersing
yourself when it comes to any truly new way of thinking and
feeling and acting, is probably…

.................A Damn Fine Idea!

Remember, one of my key rules for success and power with
women, which I've repeated over and over:

Use Your Language To Capture And Lead Her Imagination And
Emotions!

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Well, the same is true with changing yourself. You've got
to learn to capture and lead your own imagination and emotions
on a consistent basis to take you where you really want to
go! And then follow up with your external behavior, in the
real world, with women!

Anyway, yesterday I got an email from someone who brought
up this very issue. So let's here from this devoted
client/reader:


"Hey Ross, I know you probably get a million emails a day,
but I felt the need to take the time to thank you for the work
you've put in to Speed Seduction and the Unstoppable
Confidence series. I've only received SS 2 days ago, but just
by listening to your exercises on visualization and overcoming
fear and shyness, I can already tell it's having an effect on
the way I perceive myself.

If you happen to get through this and feel like replying,
I'm just wondering if it's normal to feel sort of...hollow, or
feel almost a blank emptiness after doing these exercises?
Seriously, after I listen and study for a while I feel like
I've completely erased a part of myself and it takes a little
getting used to but goes away after a while. Any idea what
I'm talking about, or am I just convincing myself that I
should feel different?

Again, thanks a million and I promise to study hard and
practice as often as I possibly can. :)

-Tim T. New Castle, PA "


Tim,

Thanks for the kind words. I personally love the
Unstoppable Confidence tapes. They are one of our all time
best sellers, and still, over a decade after I created them in
1994, they stand up as one of my finest products.

While it's great that only after 2 days you are already
noticing some good effects, bear in mind that it takes a while
for big changes to take hold and feel real.

That's not to say you aren't changing already. You are.
It just takes a while for new feelings, new thoughts and new
behaviors to "feel like the real you". Most studies show
that, in fact, the time period for new ways of thinking,
feeling and acting to "set" and feel "natural" is 21 days.

My suggestion is to keep on listening to the UC Tapes and
keep doing the exercises. It takes some consistent(but not
heroic or hard) effort to get change going. And for goodness
sakes, make sure you are a member of the Speed Seduction
on-line discussion group where you can get 24 hour support,
encouragement and ANSWERS to your questions! Yours for free
when you buy your Delux or Basic Home Study Course. Just click
here at:

http://www.speedseduction.net/products/rj87.asp

That's it for this issue. Keep practicing, keep capturing
imagination and emotion (your own and womens') and keep on
keeping on!

Peace and piece,

RJ

P.S. Your success with women is waiting for you. Just go to:
http://www.speedseduction.net/resources.asp

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How To Get Unstuck And Going Strong With Speed Seduction®!

Dear Speed Seduction® Student,


Many times, beginning students have said or written to me,
"I'm just having trouble getting started with this stuff. It's
not that I'm really shy or anything...it's just that this way of
talking seems SO strange to me."

Now listen; I am very aware that a first introduction to
Speed Seduction® can seem overwhelming and also a little, well,
ooky.

After all, if a guy walked up to you and talked to you the
way I am teaching you to talk to women, you'd probably call the
cops or punch him in the mouth. Perhaps if you were an extra
compassionate person, you'd refer him to a mental health clinic
for counseling.

Look, I'm very, very aware that the ways I'm teaching you to
communicate with women seem very strange. Further I'm here to
tell you..


....THEY SHOULD SEEM STRANGE TO YOU!

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Is this a contradiction?? How could something that could
help you have success with women beyond your wildest
fantasies..something that could take that old, rusty stuck door
of not getting anywhere or having to "settle" and...

...Make It Swing Wide Open With Excitement, Passion And The
Connections With They Kind Of Women You've Always Wanted.


Well, here is the secret in a nut-shell: women think about
and process language DIFFERENTLY.

We men tend to process words and language through the left
brain. But scientific studies, using brain scans have shown that
women process the same words and phrases using the left AND
right brains; that the same language that evokes little or no
emotional response from men, evokes massive emotional response
from women.

This means that the language that seems funny, bizarre or
off to you, will be processed by women in a way that opens the
deep, emotional, suggestive structures of their minds.

Now, don't get me wrong. All humans, male or female, are
subject to great emotional response, based on symbols. Just
think of the strong emotions that rush through you when you are
traveling in a foreign land and you see the American flag.(This
could be good or bad, depending what country you are from-since
my students come from all around the world, I have to be
careful!)

Of when you hear your countries national anthem. Or when you
see the sun finally come out on a clear day after a long bout of
darkness and rain.

These symbols and events evoke emotion, strongly, in ALL
humans. It is simply that women also happen to have strong
responses to language, spoken and written, that we men simply
usually don't.

What does this really mean for you? That if you can push
past your initial responses that this stuff may seem odd or
weird and instead, understand HOW it works, go out and give it a
try, then....

....The Results You Will See Will Astonish You!


A couple of quick metaphors to help you understand this.
When you go fishing, if you were to go fishing, would you bait
the hook with YOUR favorite snack foods because worms or
crawdads would taste bad to you?

No. You would bait it with what the FISH bites on and
desires.

Finally, supposing you were driving on a country road, late
at night, and a UFO landed right in front of you. Out stepped an
alien from a very advanced species. You knew that if you could
communicate with him, he would unveil incredible technology to
you that could solve world hunger, bring unlimited wealth,
riches, and happiness to the world, end disease, and make your
own personal dreams come true and more. He could unlock the
answer to any question, but..

He didn't speak a word of any language on earth!

Instead, you had to learn to speak to him in HIS language,
something that seemed at first like gibberish, hard to
pronounce, and not making any sense to you.

Would you refuse his offer of a device that would teach you,
in a few weeks, to speak to him in his own tongue, just because
it felt weird and made no sense to you?

Or would you take his language machine, learn to speak to
him in a way that HE understood and responded to, and...

...COLLECT TREASURES AND TECHNOLOGY BEYOND YOUR WILDEST DREAMS?

Now look: women are NOT aliens. But sometimes, the way they
process language, words and emotions can make us FEEL like they
are from another planet. Speed Seduction® will hand you that
universal translator/language machine so you can take them on
journeys OUT OF THIS WORLD!

Peace and piece,

Ross Jeffries


P.S. If you want to unstuck yourself and really get kicking
ass with Speed Seduction®, check out this product from
my top student and co-trainer, Dave Riker! It is flying off
our shelves!


http://www.daveriker.com/ssmanual/index.html

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When To Be Sexually Aggressive With Women

Dear Speed Seduction® Student,

One of the more common scenarios I get presented with is
students who are good at some of the stages of seduction, but
tend to choke at “the closing”.

That is, they are good at the pick-up, good at the middle
stage, even good at getting a lady to make out with them.

But somehow, when it comes to “going for the goods”, they
drop the ball.

In fact, just recently, I received the following email from
a student:

"Ross, The last two newsletters were awesome.

I have had your home study course for a while, but have been
tripping over my own dick for the last year.

I feel like I am developing rapport and getting women in the
state of mind that I want them, but I have also missed
opportunities because I am used to being "shy" to make the move.

My most recent missed opportunity occurred with a nice
looking 18 year old. I banged her mom using the blammo pattern,
and then her mom set me up with her daughter.

I did the discovery channel pattern with the daughter and
she kissed me. I still didn't close the deal!! Sounds pretty
sad huh?

This kind of interaction has happened time and time again,
even before I bought your course.

The strange thing is that most of these women seem upset
after the fact. I am willing to do what you outlined in the new
letters in order to become a more calm and confident version of
myself, and realize the opportunity when it happens, and not
after the fact.

Am I the only student you have had that can't close the deal
when the girl kisses him?

Thank you in advance for your response."

Your humble student,
Paul Ruggerio, Eaton Rapids, MI

Ok, Paul, and all of the rest of you who may have this
issue:

Let’s get this clear: just because a woman is kissing us and
making out with us, does NOT mean she is sufficiently turned on
or ready, in her own mind, to “dip the donkey”.

In fact, I have learned that many women need alternating
periods of being heated up, then cooled down, then heated up
even more strongly, when it comes to getting physical.

In hypnosis, we call this fractionation. Simply put, you
put someone in a trance, then take them out again. When you put
them back in, they go back in deeper than the previous time.
Each time you take them out of the trance it builds potential to
have a stronger trance response when you put them back in.

I think many, if not MOST women, are this way, with being
physically turned on. If you make out with them, raise them to a
plateau of excitement, then slow down and back up a bit, they
will be FAR more receptive when you turn the heat back on.

So usually, when you start making out with a woman, it’s
actually a good idea to get her sizzling for about ten minutes,
then drop back down a level. If you are at “third base” back off
to light kissing. Even take a break, go to the bathroom, and
come back. Or move her to a different part of the house, and
then resume.

We men are like rockets with our excitement: we take off
straight up. Women respond better with zigs and zags.

Now, as for why this student didn’t get more aggressive, I
think often it is because we are shocked that the patterns
actually work, even more so on women that are hotter and younger
than we are used to getting.

Over the years I have seen this happen with many students:
the first few times they try Speed Seduction® they do NOT expect
it to work! And when it does, they don’t know quite what to do.
As if suddenly you are holding a ten million dollar lottery
ticket in your hand and you are staring at the numbers because
you can’t believe you won!

I remember one story in particular, about a student who had
just gotten his Home Study Course and used some patterns on an
attractive woman at his church social.

She insisted they go out to the parking lot and then she
jumped all over him, performed some “oral fun” on him, and then
said, “Bang me. Put me on the hood of the car and bang me.”

The student said, “But the pastor is going to be come out
with the congregation any minute!”

She said, “I don’t the pastor to bang me! I want YOU to bang
me!”

Now, this guy was so shocked, Mr. Pee Pee wouldn’t do the
job, so he wound up having to take a rain check!

The bottom line is, you need to mentally rehearse success!
Literally act out what you will say and do in response to a
woman really wanting you, indeed insisting on having you.

Now, another issue is that sometimes women who are turned on
and do want you will suddenly pull up short and have some last
minute resistance to doing the “grown-up”.

We’ll explore THAT one in the next issue.

‘Til then,

Peace and piece


Ross Jeffries

P.S. You can have all the success with women you’ve ever
wanted right now, by going to:

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7 Power Attitudes To Skyrocket Your Success With Women!

Dear Speed Seduction® Student,

It's been said that "attitude" determines your "altitude".
In other words, the way you THINK about yourself and a subject
will be as important as what you do.

Well, let's not knock doing the right thing. Effective
action, especially with women, is REQUIRED.

However, your attitude is a big part of how attractive women
will find you. You can consider your attitude to be like the
conductive medium through which the electricity of your BEHAVIOR
will flow. If we take electric current and try to pass it
through:

a. A sheet of cardboard

b. A sheet of copper foil

Which will conduct the current best? Of course, you don't
need to be a physics major to answer: the copper foil. Just so,
your attitude with WOMEN will determine just how well your
"moves" are received. Doesn't that make sense?

With that in mind I give you:

POWER ATTITUDES for ultimate success with women.

1. Being with me is the best possible choice any woman can
make.

Now, can you prove that this is true? No, of course not. It
isn't a factual statement about an objective truth; it's a
position you choose to come from. Now, never verbalize this
attitude, for Christ sake. Don’t get right in a woman's face and
say, "being with me is the best choice you can make, baby. But
show it in how you act.

2. I consistently display the willingness to walk away.

This is one MOST "chumps" miss. You see, if a woman doesn't
get, somewhere in her mind, that she could POSSIBLY do something
to lose you, she will never really feel deep passion for you.

If you are ALWAYS there for her, no matter what, then in
the back of her mind, she will de-value you, to a greater or
lesser degree. Somewhere, somehow, in the back of her mind (or
even the front) she must realize that she COULD one day lose
you!

3. I give a woman a little bit of what she wants, and then
pull back and make her work for more.

As sad as it seems, if you are too giving to a woman, too
soon, you come off as hungry and needy and she just winds up
dumping you. You see, guys who are successful with women give a
free sample, but nice guy losers give away the store. You must,
no MUST learn to say "no", make yourself a little scarce and
unavailable, and keep her a little bit in doubt.

4. I always come from the place of being determined to do
what works.

So many times I've had people whine to me, "Why can't I just
be myself?" What that really means is, "I want to be lazy and do
what I've always done all along, even though it doesn't work!"

Look, to really win big in life, you have to be consistent.
And that means applying these principles, all the time, even
when you don't particularly feel like it, and especially if you
are in a slump.

5. I never attach excess meaning to winning or losing with
women.

I can (and will) do a whole issue on this one, but basically
what I mean is to realize that if a woman accepts you, it
doesn't mean that the next one will, so stay on your toes, and
don't get lazy or sloppy. (See item #4 directly above)

And if she rejects you, it just means that the approach you
tried, at this particular time, with this particular woman,
hasn't worked...yet. It might work at another time with her, or
you may just need another approach. Even if it doesn't, as I
once told a friend of mine who only thought he saw me get
rejected... Dan, I never get rejected. I only discover if a
woman has good taste!!

6. I don't need to win all the time; I size up a woman's
potential and either go for it or move on and cut my losses
FAST.

Sometimes the best choice is just to say, "adios" and move
on. When you realize that you don't have to win all the time,
and then it takes the pressure off and you become much more
relaxed. Ironically, and paradoxically, this almost always leads
to your winning far more often than you ever imagined
possible!!!!

7. I never know what physical type a woman will go for so I
always for it congruently and powerfully.

Listen: women are much more individualistic in what they
like, physically speaking. I once had a gorgeous young thing
tell me that if Mel Gibson or Tom Cruise asked her out, she'd
say, "no" because she only liked tall, thin black men!! You just
don't know, so go for it anyway.

Aren't those just great? Can you imagine how great you'll do
with women when you have these attitudes down and are
manifesting them in your life?

Now, speaking of manifestation, I just had to include this
email testimonial I just recently received:

Dear Ross, Well my "dream girl" girlfriend who is ten years
younger then me proposed to me on Chritsmas Eve. I said yes of
course. The beautiful thing about SS is that it gives you the
tools to touch a woman in a beautiful way so much so that your
communications with her are able to take place on a whole
different level.

I have been on the list for seven years Thank you for
helping me provide the women I have come across with such a
beautiful gift!!!

Sean Morris, Los Angeles, CA

Sean, thank you. It’s great to see when someone finds some
true happiness, using the tools I’ve provided them. By the way,
the “list” Sean is speaking of is the Speed Seduction® yahoo
groups list, for Home Study Course owners only. We now have
close to 2,000 students, worldwide, forming a 24 hour community
to help with questions, challenges and to share successes! So
get your Home Study Course at:
http://www.speedseduction.net/products/rj87.asp and join the
community today! YOU ARE NOT ALONE ANYMORE!

‘Til next time,

Peace and piece,

Ross

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7 Tips To Supercharge Your Speed Seduction® Success!

Dear Speed Seduction® Student,

Part of learning any new technology is understanding some
basic principles. So here are some tips that I have found have
helped many clients with the initial Speed Seduction learning
curve. Remember, a huge part of Speed Seduction is learning to
use your language to...

Capture and Lead A Woman's Imagination and Emotions!

As I have taught again and again, whatever you can get a
person to imagine will be perceived by them to be their own
thought, and thus will not be resisted. Women especially like to
be led by their imagination and emotions! Then, and only then,
will they give you the behaviors (love, sex, etc) that you crave
and want. Remember, women want good feelings, and all of the
tools and language patterns in the Speed Seduction Home Study
course are geared toward either doing this or gathering the
information you need to do this.

Tip 1: The patterns are examples, NOT rules. Many students
think that unless they present the patterns to women, word for
word, that they won't work or get results. THIS IS JUST 100%
FALSE! The patterns are only examples..very GOOD examples..of
the kinds of communication that turn women on. They give you the
structure. But they aren't meant to be rigidly or exclusively
followed. Learn from them HOW they work, and you'll be able to
quickly create your own patterns.

Tip 2: Women enjoy the patterns, so forget about being
caught. So many beginning clients feel like they are doing
something wrong...a small minor crime like picking a pocket or
stealing a wrist-watch when they approach women to do the
patterns! Hey..the patterns are designed to make women feel
wonderful! At the very least you are brightening her day and
doing her a favor and at best turning her on unlike anyone else
ever has! So far from feeling bad, you ought to excited about
the gift you are giving her!

Tip 3: Practice the patterns out loud! The patterns are meant
to be SPOKEN, not read! You can't really master the tonality and
tempo unless you practice OUT LOUD! THIS STEP IS CRITICAL!

Tip 4: Take a little bit each day! Speed Seduction is like
learning a whole new language and a whole new way of thinking!
Be fair to yourself and master it all naturally as it comes!
Take your time and just do a little bit every day! You'll be
shocked at how much you master in just a few weeks time!

Tip 5: Pattern Flow Is Important! One of the most crucial
skills is knowing how to transition from one pattern to another!
In one letter, I explained how to make flash cards to quickly
learn how to flow from one pattern to the next! If you haven't
done that...DO IT NOW!

Tip 6: Understand The Conversational Set-ups! Patterns are
hard to use if you don't know how to introduce them and bring
them up in conversation! For each pattern you want to use you
ought to have at least two ways of bringing it up! I cover this
in several of the Newsletters, so if you haven't got them, all
the back issues are in the back of the workbook in the
Basic/Delux Home Study Course.

Tip 7: Practice Your Closing! So many guys have told me
they've run patterns but when it comes time to closing the
deal..they are stuck! Well, as I have said, if you want a
result, you've got to rehearse it! So prepare your closes in
advance so they flow from you naturally and without thought when
you need them! Along those lines, here are some EXCELLENT
closes:

Close #1: Why don't we continue this somewhere else and see
how much we can enjoy each others company?

Close #2: It's too bad you're not the type of person who can
imagine being together, feeling and doing all the things you
love to feel and do..for all the reasons that make sense to
you..but as you think about it just like that..doesn't it just
seem that spending some time together is something we have to
do?

Close #3: So..what steps would we have to take in order to
make sure we can talk again?

Close #4: I have an intuition..and I don't know if you can
imagine this as I describe it..that when we get a chance to talk
without time pressures or interruptions...we'll really enjoy
each others company..and I'm wondering if there's a number
where you feel comfortable having me call you.

Piece and Peace

Ross

P.S You can get your Speed Seduction® Home Study Course at:
http://www.speedseduction.net/products/rj87.asp

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How To Meet Women, Anytime, Anywhere, Part I

Dear Speed Seduction® Student,

One of the most common questions I have gotten in my 11 years of teaching Speed Seduction® is: what are some good and easy ways to meet women?

Recently, someone sent me an email, where, among other things, he said, “I hate going to clubs and bars, and at 35 years old, I feel out of place in them anyway.”

Now, this is one of the most common questions I get. And it's good to see a guy up there in his 30's still pushing for what he really wants.

Personally, as a 45 year old geezer who is as close to ugly as you can get without getting your face banned by the FDA, I still go for and GET women in their mid 20's(occasionally I will pull a 21-22 year old) and I never set foot in clubs.

But clubs or not, there ARE master keys for a guy of any age, to be meeting women, anytime anywhere. And believe me, this skill IS important.

You see, so many guys who are fixated on one girl, convinced SHE is the woman of their dreams whom they must have would actually dump her in a heartbeat if they knew they could go out and meet 10 hot women that same day they were pining over their 'dream girl"(who probably isn't giving them any anyway).

Hey…I'm sorry if I seem flippant here. But the reality is, the skill of meeting women anytime, anywhere, is crucial to avoiding what I call..

Relationships By Default!

You see, it has long been a theory of mine that MOST men don’t really wind up with the woman they really want. For most men, "dating" is such a form of roll the dice/crap shoot/gambling that they usually wind up settling for the woman who accidentally was attracted to them instead of the woman or women they really want.

Does this sound familiar?

Hey-I'm sorry if this seems harsh to you, but I call 'em like I see 'em. (And wow, did this ever get me booed and even physically attacked when I used to spout it on talk shows way back in the early and mid 90's.

Anyway, enough rambling. What I'm about to introduce you to is light years ahead of anything else out there, primarily because IT DOES NOT RELY ON CANNED LINES.

Yes, lines can be useful. Yes, lines can work. And I'll even give you some that are actually quite good.

But the key to remember is, with any line, it is the ATTITUDE that will determine how well the line works.


The Incredible Power Of Attitudes And Approach Positions


Basically then, there are 4 different attitudes or "approach positions"

The first one I'd like to talk about is one of my very favorite, and I call it "the Blurt Out".

The Blurt Out pretty much is what it sounds like; you "blurt out" whatever is actually going through your mind when you first spot the lady who has your attention, without any "editing" on your part (Ok, here's an exception: if your first thought is, "Damn, I have to touch those breasts!" it's probably best NOT to blurt that out!!

What I like about the Blurt Out is that it is coming from a place of vulnerability and sincerity. It's almost like you are thinking out loud, so women tend to automatically react without suspicion and be much more open and friendly to your approach.

The Blurt Out also works because you are implying something about your confidence, without saying it. What you are implying is, "hey, I'm a sincere guy, with real guts. I'm telling you what I really think, and I'm putting my head on the chopping block and handing you the axe. Will you be a horrible person and a coward and chop my head off or will you be as cool as me and be open to talking?"

The Blurt Out tends to work best with women in motion; either women who are walking directly toward you or women with whom you are walking parallel/side to side.

Just as an example of the Blurt Out in action, I once met a very hot 24 year old Canadian chick. I was in a parking structure for a shopping mall. She was walking up the steps, as I was walking down.

As I passed her I blurted out exactly what I was thinking in that moment, which was, "Wow..you've got style to burn!" just as if I was thinking out loud. She turned around, walked back down the steps and SHE initiated the conversation and later invited me to go get a beer.

That's the key to this approach, again. Just blurt out whatever you are thinking when you see her. Even if your thoughts happen to be shy or fearful, express what you are thinking, as in, "I realized if I kept hesitating, I'd never get to meet you and I'd kick myself for a week. So I had to come up and say SOMETHING. I'm "Your Name Here"

Can you see how totally sincere and disarming this approach could be? Especially for very good looking women who keep having all sorts of bullshit thrown their way.

The Blurt Out Plus The Implied Compliment

With an implied compliment, you don't actually say that YOU think the woman in question is hot or stylish or beautiful. You just imply it by how you state it.

Here's an example: walking around an outdoor mall, I spotted a woman who just walked incredibly gracefully. So I walked beside her and said, "It's just that I really admire women who carry themselves with grace and power..so I had to say "Hi"."

See the implied compliment? I didn't say it directly, I implied it. I said I admired women with who carry themselves with grace and power. Since I was talking to her, that must mean I think that about her.

But HER mind had to fill in the blank and apply the compliment to herself. Since this was an ACTIVE process involving her own mind, it wasn't perceived as coming from an outsider, but rather something she herself thought. And so it goes in without resistance!

This is a sneaky way to communicate, but you'll learn a lot more about the power of implication to move the thoughts, imagination, and emotions of women in ways you can't yet dream possible!

Approach Position Two: Observation, Comment or Question

The second approach position or attitude is what I call the "observation, comment or question". You can combine these with a sense of humor or just do them straight up, and they work best in a setting where neither you or the woman is in motion, so you have some time to make your observation.

The biggest advantage with these is they are non-threatening and you don't have to rely on anything canned to fit the situation.

(By the way, when thinking of something to say, one of the key questions I'll ask myself is, "What can I notice, observe or intuit about this person that I can use to make a connection? A good way to send your mind in the right direction).

Observations, comments and questions of course depend on the situation ongoing, and I usually quickly follow them up with something funny, often a put-on(which is our third approach position or attitude, so we'll get there in a minute).

Real life example: I was in a gas station, filling up my car. The woman next to me was putting gas in her giant white Mercedes. I said, "How do you like your Mercedes?" (See..simple question!)

Her response, "I love it. How do you like your SAAB?"

Ok, she's answering back, so I know at least she's friendly. I said, "I like it."

Then I jumped right to a put-on, which is an easy thing to follow up any comment, observation or question.

I said, "It's too short."

She said, "What? The Mercedes. I think it's pretty long.

I said, "No, it's too short."

She said, "What is?"

I said,"Life…to hestitate…when you meet someone you think is incredibly attractive."

She smiled and said, "Thank you!"

I then playfully hit her on the shoulder and said, "I was talking about ME!"

This got MORE laughter and then names were exchanged, and shortly thereafter, phone numbers as well.

My point: observations, comments and questions can be followed up with almost anything and combined with almost anything.

A favorite question opener of mine actually combines a question with a compliment, as in, "Do you do a martial art? You carry yourself with discpline and elegance..it's a very rare and attractive trait."

By the way, when it comes to compliments to pick up women, I prefer to IMPLY them or combine them with a question and I prefer to strongly compliment a woman on how she moves or her "energy". For some reason these are lot more acceptable and less threatening and perceived as more sincere than direct comments
about her looks.

Approach Position 3: The Put-On

Now we come to my favorite "approach position" the put-on. The put-on is simply a humorous approach where you pretend something to get her attention. For example, if a woman is walking in my direction and is wearing a t-shirt with a logo or design, I will look confused, point at the shirt and say, "I don't get it".

Usually, the response is, "Don't get what?" To which I always say, "The shirt. What's it mean?"

At this point, I almost always get an explanation from her about the logo or symbol, to which my response is to pretend to disagree and argue in the most ridiculous way.

Example: sitting in a yogurt shop, a young lady with very large breasts walked in. She was wearing a tight t-shirt with a slogan that said, "Free the Afghans"!.

I pretended that I thought the shirt was about Afghan DOGS. You know..the shaggy haired, long-legged dogs you sometimes see accompanying models in photo shoots?

I said, "who is holding a bunch of dogs captive? Why do you want to free them? Do you want more dogs to be strays?"

She tried explaining, and I kept misunderstanding. Then I made a joke about being so good looking I didn't need to be smart. Then I introduced myself.

If you want a good idea of the overall attitude for this approach, think of Bugs Bunny. Or Groucho Marx. Or Leslie Nielsen from the "Police Squad" movies.

One more example of a put-on approach. I was sitting in a local café and seated behind me was a very attractive young Asian woman. I observed that she was thinking very hard, talking to herself, trying to figure out her economics book.

So I turned to her and said, as seriously as could, "Could I ask you not to think too loud? You look like a loud thinker, and I have very important writing to do."

My friend, who was sitting across from me said she couldn't stop looking at me after that and could not go back to studying! I turned to her a minute later and said, "Look…I asked you nicely not to think so loud! Don't make me call the management!"

At that point, SHE began a conversation.

There are many, many ways to enjoy a put on. And you can combine it with an observation as in this last example; my observation about this girl was that she really was, "thinking loud"-she was having trouble trying to figure out what she was reading and so she WAS talking to herself, internally, in her head, which is a way of "thinking loud".

Approach Position #4: Genuine Intuition

The final approach position is what I would call a genuine intuition. This is more rare and harder to do. But did you ever find yourself just looking at someone and you just KNEW that person? Like something deep inside you connected with something deep inside them and you just KNEW them?

In this case, when this happens, go with your intuition and tell them what you observe. It's close to an observation, but the difference with this position is, it really isn't something you could pick up with your physical 5 senses.

This is advanced stuff that will come in time, so I wouldn't worry about it for now. But as an example, I was once sitting in my favorite coffee place. As this beautiful blonde woman walked in the door, I saw an image of her on stage, singing. So as she walked by I just said, "How long have you been a singer?"

It totally blew her away. And a long conversation followed. So if you have a strong intuition, just run with it and give it a shot. It's a bit risky, but when it works it has an incredible impact.

Ok. That's it for this issue. Next we'll continue to take up this thread and tell you more great ways to meet women, anytime, anywhere. Until then,

Peace and piece,


Ross

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Understanding Assertiveness

To understand assertiveness let's start with common causes for nonassertiveness:

FEAR: of displeasing or hurting others or of being rejected or of making mistakes. Nonassertive people are often oversensitive to other people's feelings. They are afraid that disagreement will be misinterpreted as dislike for the other person.

FALSE BELIEFS: that they are unworthy or that they do not have any rights. These people think that if they assert their rights they are being self-centered, or that others' opinion are more valid.

LACK OF SKILLS: Some people never learned how to be assertive or were discouraged from being assertive as children.
Let's continue with some common causes of aggression:

INSECURITY: those feelings of powerlessness. Aggressive people often feel threatened and react strongly thinking they must protect themselves.

RELUCTANCE: to give up the perceived benefits of aggression. Some aggressive behavior make work in the short run because it intimidates other people. In the long run, however, the aggression gains only resentment ... not respect ... from others.

INEXPERIENCE: in expressing needs and feelings in any other way. Aggression can become second nature in some people.

AND PEOPLE can and do CHANGE the way they act ... CHANGING YOUR BEHAVIOR is really up to you! Nonassertive or aggressive actions often are the easiest and result when you put too much pressure on yourself, blowing things out of proportion. Learn to think calmly and rationally.

DEVELOP A POSITIVE ATTITUDE that says: It's OK to make mistakes. No one's perfect. I can say "NO" when I need to. I would like to be good at this and if I am not that is OK. I would like it if he went out with me and if he doesn't , that is OK. Asking questions does not make me look stupid and it is the best way to get the information I need. Just because I see it this way does not mean everybody else should agree. If I stand up for myself now and say what I really feel, it will be better in the long run.

About Assertiveness

What is assertiveness? It is speaking your mind and allowing others to do the same. Assertive people:

Say what they think, feel and want. Assertive people understand that they have the right to express themselves. Speak directly, honestly and tactfully - without excuses, apologies or "beating around the bush" Respect others' rights as well. An assertive person doesn't try to intimidate. There is a big yet subtle difference between assertive, nonassertive and aggressive. Be ASSERTIVE and notice the difference.

Because being assertive has many benefits. Have you ever wished you could:

Speak your mind clearly and effectively?

Say "NO" without feeling guilty?

Feel better about yourself?

Improve your relationships with others?

Disagree without seeming hostile?

Feel in control of your life?

Ask for assistance when you choose?

Get respect from THOSE others?

START by evaluating your behavior.

Take out a piece of paper and start writing. Think about how you interact with your family, friends, and business associates. Answer the following questions and notice how you feel and discover if you are Assertive, Nonassertive or Aggressive.

ASSERTIVE

* Are you confident without being overbearing?

* Are you proud when you do something well?

* Do you say what you feel without being hostile to others?

* Can you resist peer pressure?

* Can you give and receive compliments gracefully?

* Do you respect yourself?

NONASSERTIVE

1. Are you afraid that others will not like you if you disagree with them?

2. Do you remain silent when something bothers you?

3. Do you feel guilty when you say "no" to a friend, relative or salesperson?

4. Is it difficult for you to give or receive criticism?

5. Are you reluctant to ask for assistance?

AGGRESSIVE

A. Do you demand rather than ask?

B. Are you verbally or physically abusive?

C. Do you feel angry when others disagree with you?

D. Do you explode when someone criticizes you?

E. Do you feel that you have to win, that to compromise is to loose?

Tune in tomorrow to find out what causes each of the above and the clues to moving from one to the other as you CHOOSE.

How To Meet Women, Anytime, Anywhere, Part I

Dear Speed Seduction® Student,

One of the most common questions I have gotten in my 11 years of teaching Speed Seduction® is: what are some good and easy ways to meet women?

Recently, someone sent me an email, where, among other things, he said, “I hate going to clubs and bars, and at 35 years old, I feel out of place in them anyway.”

Now, this is one of the most common questions I get. And it's good to see a guy up there in his 30's still pushing for what he really wants.

Personally, as a 45 year old geezer who is as close to ugly as you can get without getting your face banned by the FDA, I still go for and GET women in their mid 20's(occasionally I will pull a 21-22 year old) and I never set foot in clubs.

But clubs or not, there ARE master keys for a guy of any age, to be meeting women, anytime anywhere. And believe me, this skill IS important.

You see, so many guys who are fixated on one girl, convinced SHE is the woman of their dreams whom they must have would actually dump her in a heartbeat if they knew they could go out and meet 10 hot women that same day they were pining over their 'dream girl"(who probably isn't giving them any anyway).

Hey…I'm sorry if I seem flippant here. But the reality is, the skill of meeting women anytime, anywhere, is crucial to avoiding what I call..

Relationships By Default!

You see, it has long been a theory of mine that MOST men don’t really wind up with the woman they really want. For most men, "dating" is such a form of roll the dice/crap shoot/gambling that they usually wind up settling for the woman who accidentally was attracted to them instead of the woman or women they really want.

Does this sound familiar?

Hey-I'm sorry if this seems harsh to you, but I call 'em like I see 'em. (And wow, did this ever get me booed and even physically attacked when I used to spout it on talk shows way back in the early and mid 90's.

Anyway, enough rambling. What I'm about to introduce you to is light years ahead of anything else out there, primarily because IT DOES NOT RELY ON CANNED LINES.

Yes, lines can be useful. Yes, lines can work. And I'll even give you some that are actually quite good.

But the key to remember is, with any line, it is the ATTITUDE that will determine how well the line works.


The Incredible Power Of Attitudes And Approach Positions


Basically then, there are 4 different attitudes or "approach positions"

The first one I'd like to talk about is one of my very favorite, and I call it "the Blurt Out".

The Blurt Out pretty much is what it sounds like; you "blurt out" whatever is actually going through your mind when you first spot the lady who has your attention, without any "editing" on your part (Ok, here's an exception: if your first thought is, "Damn, I have to touch those breasts!" it's probably best NOT to blurt that out!!

What I like about the Blurt Out is that it is coming from a place of vulnerability and sincerity. It's almost like you are thinking out loud, so women tend to automatically react without suspicion and be much more open and friendly to your approach.

The Blurt Out also works because you are implying something about your confidence, without saying it. What you are implying is, "hey, I'm a sincere guy, with real guts. I'm telling you what I really think, and I'm putting my head on the chopping block and handing you the axe. Will you be a horrible person and a coward and chop my head off or will you be as cool as me and be open to talking?"

The Blurt Out tends to work best with women in motion; either women who are walking directly toward you or women with whom you are walking parallel/side to side.

Just as an example of the Blurt Out in action, I once met a very hot 24 year old Canadian chick. I was in a parking structure for a shopping mall. She was walking up the steps, as I was walking down.

As I passed her I blurted out exactly what I was thinking in that moment, which was, "Wow..you've got style to burn!" just as if I was thinking out loud. She turned around, walked back down the steps and SHE initiated the conversation and later invited me to go get a beer.

That's the key to this approach, again. Just blurt out whatever you are thinking when you see her. Even if your thoughts happen to be shy or fearful, express what you are thinking, as in, "I realized if I kept hesitating, I'd never get to meet you and I'd kick myself for a week. So I had to come up and say SOMETHING. I'm "Your Name Here"

Can you see how totally sincere and disarming this approach could be? Especially for very good looking women who keep having all sorts of bullshit thrown their way.

The Blurt Out Plus The Implied Compliment

With an implied compliment, you don't actually say that YOU think the woman in question is hot or stylish or beautiful. You just imply it by how you state it.

Here's an example: walking around an outdoor mall, I spotted a woman who just walked incredibly gracefully. So I walked beside her and said, "It's just that I really admire women who carry themselves with grace and power..so I had to say "Hi"."

See the implied compliment? I didn't say it directly, I implied it. I said I admired women with who carry themselves with grace and power. Since I was talking to her, that must mean I think that about her.

But HER mind had to fill in the blank and apply the compliment to herself. Since this was an ACTIVE process involving her own mind, it wasn't perceived as coming from an outsider, but rather something she herself thought. And so it goes in without resistance!

This is a sneaky way to communicate, but you'll learn a lot more about the power of implication to move the thoughts, imagination, and emotions of women in ways you can't yet dream possible!

Approach Position Two: Observation, Comment or Question

The second approach position or attitude is what I call the "observation, comment or question". You can combine these with a sense of humor or just do them straight up, and they work best in a setting where neither you or the woman is in motion, so you have some time to make your observation.

The biggest advantage with these is they are non-threatening and you don't have to rely on anything canned to fit the situation.

(By the way, when thinking of something to say, one of the key questions I'll ask myself is, "What can I notice, observe or intuit about this person that I can use to make a connection? A good way to send your mind in the right direction).

Observations, comments and questions of course depend on the situation ongoing, and I usually quickly follow them up with something funny, often a put-on(which is our third approach position or attitude, so we'll get there in a minute).

Real life example: I was in a gas station, filling up my car. The woman next to me was putting gas in her giant white Mercedes. I said, "How do you like your Mercedes?" (See..simple question!)

Her response, "I love it. How do you like your SAAB?"

Ok, she's answering back, so I know at least she's friendly. I said, "I like it."

Then I jumped right to a put-on, which is an easy thing to follow up any comment, observation or question.

I said, "It's too short."

She said, "What? The Mercedes. I think it's pretty long.

I said, "No, it's too short."

She said, "What is?"

I said,"Life…to hestitate…when you meet someone you think is incredibly attractive."

She smiled and said, "Thank you!"

I then playfully hit her on the shoulder and said, "I was talking about ME!"

This got MORE laughter and then names were exchanged, and shortly thereafter, phone numbers as well.

My point: observations, comments and questions can be followed up with almost anything and combined with almost anything.

A favorite question opener of mine actually combines a question with a compliment, as in, "Do you do a martial art? You carry yourself with discpline and elegance..it's a very rare and attractive trait."

By the way, when it comes to compliments to pick up women, I prefer to IMPLY them or combine them with a question and I prefer to strongly compliment a woman on how she moves or her "energy". For some reason these are lot more acceptable and less threatening and perceived as more sincere than direct comments
about her looks.

Approach Position 3: The Put-On

Now we come to my favorite "approach position" the put-on. The put-on is simply a humorous approach where you pretend something to get her attention. For example, if a woman is walking in my direction and is wearing a t-shirt with a logo or design, I will look confused, point at the shirt and say, "I don't get it".

Usually, the response is, "Don't get what?" To which I always say, "The shirt. What's it mean?"

At this point, I almost always get an explanation from her about the logo or symbol, to which my response is to pretend to disagree and argue in the most ridiculous way.

Example: sitting in a yogurt shop, a young lady with very large breasts walked in. She was wearing a tight t-shirt with a slogan that said, "Free the Afghans"!.

I pretended that I thought the shirt was about Afghan DOGS. You know..the shaggy haired, long-legged dogs you sometimes see accompanying models in photo shoots?

I said, "who is holding a bunch of dogs captive? Why do you want to free them? Do you want more dogs to be strays?"

She tried explaining, and I kept misunderstanding. Then I made a joke about being so good looking I didn't need to be smart. Then I introduced myself.

If you want a good idea of the overall attitude for this approach, think of Bugs Bunny. Or Groucho Marx. Or Leslie Nielsen from the "Police Squad" movies.

One more example of a put-on approach. I was sitting in a local café and seated behind me was a very attractive young Asian woman. I observed that she was thinking very hard, talking to herself, trying to figure out her economics book.

So I turned to her and said, as seriously as could, "Could I ask you not to think too loud? You look like a loud thinker, and I have very important writing to do."

My friend, who was sitting across from me said she couldn't stop looking at me after that and could not go back to studying! I turned to her a minute later and said, "Look…I asked you nicely not to think so loud! Don't make me call the management!"

At that point, SHE began a conversation.

There are many, many ways to enjoy a put on. And you can combine it with an observation as in this last example; my observation about this girl was that she really was, "thinking loud"-she was having trouble trying to figure out what she was reading and so she WAS talking to herself, internally, in her head, which is a way of "thinking loud".

Approach Position #4: Genuine Intuition

The final approach position is what I would call a genuine intuition. This is more rare and harder to do. But did you ever find yourself just looking at someone and you just KNEW that person? Like something deep inside you connected with something deep inside them and you just KNEW them?

In this case, when this happens, go with your intuition and tell them what you observe. It's close to an observation, but the difference with this position is, it really isn't something you could pick up with your physical 5 senses.

This is advanced stuff that will come in time, so I wouldn't worry about it for now. But as an example, I was once sitting in my favorite coffee place. As this beautiful blonde woman walked in the door, I saw an image of her on stage, singing. So as she walked by I just said, "How long have you been a singer?"

It totally blew her away. And a long conversation followed. So if you have a strong intuition, just run with it and give it a shot. It's a bit risky, but when it works it has an incredible impact.

Ok. That's it for this issue. Next we'll continue to take up this thread and tell you more great ways to meet women, anytime, anywhere. Until then,

Peace and piece,


Ross

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Attraction Secrets Of The TRUE Alpha Male

Dear Speed Seduction® Student,

Recently, I got asked the following question, which has been coming up more and more lately:

"What's all this stuff about being a "cocky/funny" "Alpha" male? Is it true that "busting" on a woman and being "Alpha" is what it really takes to get the kind of hot women most men really want?"

You know, it's kind of flattering when I get these kind of questions. It shows that the huge numbers of Ross Jeffries impersonators and imitators are still falling flat on their faces trying to eat my dust in the "Get Girls" advice game.

Look: there is nothing wrong, per se, with being "cocky and funny". Hell,. I even gave advice on exactly how to do this way back in 1988 when I wrote my original book, "How To Get The Women You Desire Into Bed".

But cocky and funny, by itself, is not going to get you laid, unless you happen to already be so good looking that she gets a tingle in her clit just by looking at you.

What cocky and funny can do is get you past her initial, "Is this just another loser guy?" screening tests. It will get her attention, and hold it..for a little while. It will get you past her first set of screens and keep you in here…for a little while.

The Problem With Always "Busting" On Women!

The problem is, "busting" a girl like this eventually has to turn into something better and deeper or she is going to get bored, insulted and blow you off, unless as I said before, you happen to be so good looking you make her wet just by standing their.

Really, you need to take the advice you get from some of these "cocky funny" and "alpha male" dudes with a huge grain of salt. Can you really get women just by doing what a great looking guy does to get them?

Could you win a fist fight in a bar by doing what a guy who is 6 foot 10 and 350 lbs of solid muscle does to win a fight-just make sure you throw the first punch and then jump on the guy?

So, cocky and funny will get attention and get you in the door. But then, as I keep saying, you need to be able to lead the conversation into the topics and themes that are most likely to trigger her deep and intense feeling "recipes" so you can STICK YOUR DOUGH IN HER OVEN and BAKE YOUR COOKIES, good buddy!

Now, as for this alpha male crap-holy friggin' frijoles.

The stuff I read about this from my "rival" Gurus really makes me want to tear out my hair and scream.

First of all, these guys are postulating some kind of evolutionary biological mechanism in a woman's mind that somehow makes her ready for mating if you just act tough and push her around, and constantly show her who is the boss.

Aside from the fact that there is, in fact, no scientific evidence at all for such theories (and in fact, studies of our closest genetic relatives, the pygmy chimp or bonobos show the opposite-that it is the males who are co-operative and stick around to help with the infants that actually get laid the most!) it misses a larger point.

It is NOT that women like "Alphas", however badly defined that may be.

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The reality is that humans, male and female, like and respond to LEADERSHIP. And LEADERSHIP has little or nothing to do with the silly, teenage, juvenile posturing and high school games these "Double Your Masturbating" guys are teaching you.

Now LEADERSHIP isn't just about being bossy or pushing people around. LEADERSHIP is about having a twin set of skills, a set of skills that both balance and compliment each other.

Those are the skills of being able to strongly guide and set the direction and also being able to listen and gather information.

The problem with always being "Alpha" as defined by wanna-be Ross Jeffries imitators, is that it requires you never co-operate, never relax or loosen up, and most importantly never listen to or gather information about the woman you desire.

In the mind of these buffoons(and I'm being charitable with the name calling here-these guys should be seriously horse-whipped) asking questions and gathering information about a woman is viewed as trying to "prove" or "qualify" yourself and makes you look like a pussy.

In fact, listening to a woman while you set a strong direction and remain in the lead is an IDEAL combination for rapidly appearing to her as very attractive.

Nice Guy Vs. Jerk-A Totally False Choice To Screw Up Your Mind

The problem is, we guys are given a false choice between two bad extremes:

1. Be the "nice guy". The problem with nice guys is, they
not only listen to a woman to find out where she is at, they actually wind up GOING THERE THEMSELVES, totally losing themselves in her emotions, desires and wants. They let her reality over take and rule their own! YUCCH!


2. Be the "jerk". Now, jerks have no problem holding a strong desire and intent. The problem is, they don't' care at all about a woman's reality so they never even bother really find out who she is, what would really deeply please her and so they wind up having to constantly recruit new women to sucker in! Again, YUCCH!

Leadership: The True Skill And Challenge!

The true skill set is being able to keep your own desire and intent strong, while at the same time recognizing, listening to, and gathering information about the other person. THIS ability is a core, key skill to not only being truly "Alpha" with women, but to being a leader in life in general, not just with women, but with men as well.

And this ability is part of what gives women that positive "vibe" that makes them drawn to you.

Another aspect of being truly "Alpha", in terms of being a leader, is the ability to look at what you are doing in your
behavior and thinking with both ruthless clarity and total and complete compassion and non-blaming.

You see, most people won't even look at their mistakes, for fear they can't correct them or for fear that they will hate themselves and beat themselves up over them.

And the few who will look at their mistakes usually get so depressed or angry about it, they fail to really ever correct them.

So I'm here to tell you that this very rare form of believing in yourself-the ability to embrace your mistakes and quickly learn from them without attaching pain, blame or self-hate puts you ahead of 99.9999% of the population on this planet.

And it is exactly THIS kind of super-rare real "confidence"-the confidence to move ahead and keep improving yourself and trying new things- that will make you massively attractive to women in a way that they won't be able to "put their finger" on.

Remember, unlike us guys, women pick up on "VIBES". This "vibe" of true Alpha will get them so hot and horny, they won't understand why they are wetting themselves around you. And you'll never have to put them down, act like a moron, or "bust" on them like a High School boy who's got a crush on some girl in study hall.

This is the real, dignified confidence of a TRUE LEADER, a
man.

True, Deep-Level Self-Control: Catnip To Women!

The final aspect of a being alpha is being able to gain control over your beliefs, intent, awareness and design for yourself the kind of person you would like to be. This requires not just the use of will, but also of imagination and envisioning yourself and your future. Again something that requires discernment, discipline and direction.

Are you really going to get this from grown men who are
still advising you act like a High School boy, "busting" on that cute girl in study hall?

I really don't think so.

Becoming a TRUE leader, a real "Alpha" may be a bit more complex and require more discernment, direction and depth on your part. But it's THE way to attract and enjoy women you can like, love and respect. Something the "Alpha/Pick Up" "gurus" haven't got a clue about and could never, ever teach about or tell you.

Think about it….

Til next issue,

Piece and Peace,


Ross


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How To Transform Your Self-Image With Women!

Dear Speed Seduction® Student,

Last issue, we talked a bit about how to interrupt and overcome the response of being fearful or shy or hesitant around women.

In this issue, we will continue with this thread. I want to start you on the process of doing a lot more than overcoming being "shy". I want to start you on the process of programming your subconscious mind for outrageous confidence, power and charm!

This is a subject about which I actually have some trouble writing, simply because I've evolved and created so many techniques that have helped so many thousands of guys, it's hard for me to know where to begin!

Does it seem like I'm bragging? Well, as they say in Missouri, it ain't bragging if..

....You Really Can Do What You Say You Can!

Alrighty then. There is a fundamental principle of the human mind I want you to really understand and incorporate and it explains why some people really can change their lives while other just stay hoping, wishing and stuck. It is a rule about how the human brain and mind work that controls a great deal of what we can do. And here it is:

While Your Brain May Be Attracted To Doing Something Different, Usually Brains Only DO What Is Familiar

Basically what I am saying here is, people tend to do what they are used to. People tend to think like they are used to thinking and feel like they are used to feeling.

Yes, they may WANT to, on some level, change.

But the reality is, given a situation in the real world, if you are used to acting, feeling and thinking in a certain way, just vaguely wishing you could be different ISN'T GOING TO CHANGE ANYTHING AT ALL.

The key to any kind of real change, then, is mental rehearsal. You must learn to program in the way you like to feel, act, think, believe and respond and do so with sufficient repetition that the new feelings, actions, thoughts and beliefs are perceived by your brain as being more powerful, more vivid, more real and more familiar…

Than The Way You Used To Be!

I will say this again, because it is so imporant. It is NOT enough to realize you want to change. It is not enough to even THINK about changing. If you want a change, especially a change that is radically different, you must…

Vividly Mentally Rehearse It!

Now, I am not the first person to talk about mental rehearsal or it's dirty little new age cousin, "guided visualization". The problem with most of these methods, as presented is,

They Simply Do Not Work!

That's not because the people who teach or write about them don't care. It's simply because they are either leaving out vital ingredients to "make the recipe work" or because they are adding in stupid stuff that just doesn't belong.

So let me give you some vital keys to make mental rehearsal work for you, so in a matter of a few short weeks you can totally reprogram the deepest levels of your mind for the kind of beliefs, attitudes, awareness, behaviors and timing to bring you outrageously magnetic confidence and power with women.

Key #1: The role of breath. As I pointed out last issue, breathing is of vital importance for making any deep level change.

We could get into all sorts of meta-physical explanations but let's keep it scientific for a while at least. The scientific fact is that if you have a prolonged fear or anxiety response, eventually the limbic part of your brain that controls the flight/fight response gets progressively triggered by the smallest inputs, like a car alarm that goes off when a cat walks by.

Unless you interrupt this limbic over-drive, any programming you try to do with the other levels of the brain and mind are going to get sabotaged and disrupted, so change will take much more "will power" and fighting yourself.

We want to do things the easy way.

So the first step in doing your mental rehearsal for power with women will be to take ten minutes to do your breathing as taught in the previous newsletter. And if you aren't willing to take ten minutes for yourself to succeed with women…

Pack It In Now Buckwheat And Make Some More Room On The Planet!

Key #2: Understanding and using the two kinds of visualization.

Alright, this is not that hard to understand, but it is a key reason why most visualization and guided imagery is usually an exercise in mere mental whacking off. If visualizing and mental rehearsal has never before worked for you, this is why, and now I promise it will.

(By the way, if you are one of those people who thinks "I can't visualize at all" I have ways to fix that too, but it's beyond the scope of this newsletter. You can contact me privately: sandworm77@comcast.net).

Anyway, there is the kind of visualization where you see yourself in the images. It's like watching a home movie of yourself, so you see your image of what you are doing or experiencing, how you are acting, etc.

This image which is useful for motivation and setting an overall direction for your mind is called disassociated. It means you are watching your self go through an experience, but you are not actually in the image so you don't feel very much, if anything, of the feelings of being there.

The Power Of Associated Imagery

The second kind of visualizing is where you do not see yourself in the images, but you see what you would actually see if you stepped into the image and were really there, looking out through your own eyes. We call this associated imagery, and this kind of imagery is what is most useful for fully rehearsing new behaviors, responses, emotions and thoughts.

The key to proper mental rehearsal that really works is to first use a dissociated set of images; seeing yourself the way you would like to look, talk, and act and then to switch to associated images, stepping inside the pictures and actually moving, talking, thinking, and feeling the way you'll move, talk, think and feel when you are actually in the real situation.

Does this make sense?

First seeing the disassociated images of the way you want to be sets a guide post and a direction for your brain, so it gets an overall idea.

Then, seeing the associated images and actually walking around making the actual physical movements, talking out loud the way you'd speak, doing what you'd be actually doing FILLS IN THE DETAILS FOR YOUR BRAIN.

An Example Of A Mental Programming Session For Confidence And Power With Women The Two Kinds Of Visualizing…Plus A Special "Boost"!

Before I give you this practice, remember that the process of re-programming your subconscious mind for success with women is just that, a process. That means it takes some repetition and practice for the new thoughts, attitudes, behaviors and feelings to take root and take hold.

So you should practice this once a day for 2-3 weeks before you expect to see any results, though some people see results immediately

Ok then…

Pick a situation-a specific context-where you'd like to have more power and confidence with women.

Let's say it is in the initial approach or walk up.

The first thing I want you to do is sit comfortably on the flow and energize yourself with some of the breathing exercises (a key to making this work) that I've discussed before or breathing exercises you find in any good book on yoga or meditation.

The next thing I want you to do is mentally create a place in your mind where you believe anything is possible.

To do this, begin counting backward in your mind as follows:

Visualize the number 3. See it 3 times, as in 3, 3, 3. Then see the number 2 and visualize it 3 times as in 2, 2, 2. Finally, see the number 1, three times as in 1, 1, 1. Mentally say each number as you see it in your mind.

Now, stand up. Imagine in front of you, a circle, on the ground. Use your actual physical arm and make the motion of drawing the circle on the ground.

Look at the circle and thing of it as a place where ANYTHING can be made possible. Where anything can be made real. Where anything can be created. Then step into it.

Ok. Now, imagine that situation where you want to be more confident and powerful with women. See the image of how you would look when you are that confident. See yourself acting, talking, standing, moving and feeling as you would like to.

This is your disassociated image.

Using Your Associated Imagery

Now, take a step forward and imagine you are actually stepping into the image so you are walking, breathing, talking from that place. See what you would actually see from you own eyes if you were there. Feel what you would feel.

Now, for an extra boost of confidence, step outside yourself and step into the woman you are meeting. Imagine you are looking at yourself through her eyes, feeling how excited she feels to meet you, hearing her voice in her head saying, "Wow..this guy is hot."

Finally step back out of her and see your confident,
powerful self again, disassociated. Mentally give yourself a command that this self will be there for you, with all the qualities, behaviors, insights, attitudes and timing you need for total success with women.

Key #3 The Power Of Letting It Go

Once you've done your mental rehearsal and visualization for the day, you must dismiss it from you mind and LET IT GO.

Too often, we are taught that to get something we really want or a change we really want in ourselves, we have to constantly think about it, keeping our "goal" in the front of our mind.

In fact, this over-motivation is a load of crap that just keeps people stuck.

You have to find the proper level of motivation to create change, and that involves knowing when to just dismiss it from your mind and let it go.

It's sort of like baking cookies in an oven (here we go with baking analogies again; first it was recipes, now it's cookies!). If you put the dough in the oven but keep opening the oven door every 30 seconds to check if the cookies are done, they will never get finished!

In fact, this constant thinking if you are progressing or not or if it is working is just another form of doubt. You see, "hope" and "doubt" are really the same thing. They both involve uncertainty.

Once you've done your mental rehearsal, you need to let it go. Just release it, relax and know it will be there for you in the real world.

Ok. I think I've already over-loaded you a bit. Next issue, I will take you through an actual, structured, guided-visualization/mental rehearsal that you can learn to do on a daily basis to super-charge your confidence, power and success with women.

Til then,

Peace and Piece,

Ross


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